Grandparents play key role in Faith

Carrie Harkey – Special to the Florida Catholic

On March 19, 2021 Pope Francis inaugurated the Year of Amoris Laetitia Family, an initiative that offers the Church an opportunity to celebrate and reflect on the central role the family plays in transmitting the Gospel and shaping society.

In conjunction with this yearlong initiative and recognizing the key role grandparents play in the family, this past January Pope Francis established the World Day for Grandparents and the Elderly, to take place annually on the fourth Sunday of July, close to the feast of the grandparents of Jesus, Ss. Anne and Joachim. The theme for this first celebration occurring on July 25 is “I am with you always” (Mt. 28:20).

In Amoris Laetitia, the document issued to address the complex situations the family faces today, the Holy Father reminds us that, “we must reawaken the collective sense of gratitude, of appreciation, of hospitality, which makes the elderly feel like a living part of the community” (AL191).  They still have important work to do in building up the body of Christ as they comprise a significant part of Catholic laity. This celebration is established to treasure the elderly and cherish the gifts they bring.

Modern society advances concepts disregarding human life; through abortion and euthanasia—throw away concepts for those deemed not productive to society rather than reawakening this sense of gratitude and appreciation for all life.  Yet the Church reminds all are called to overcome this “throw-away” culture and societal indifference by witnessing the love of Christ to people in all stages of life.  Our grandparents and elderly must not be neglected, isolated, or disregarded.

The hearts of seniors feel the pain of their beloved family members falling away from the faith. The concerning statistics are well known, particularly to grandparents—declining Mass attendance, declining belief in the True Presence of Christ in the Eucharist, and young people leaving the Faith shortly after being confirmed.  Through their witness and prayers, Grandparents play a crucial role towards reversing these trends.  In his message to grandparents and the elderly, Pope Francis reminds the faithful that, “there is no retirement age from the work of proclaiming the Gospel and handing down traditions to grandchildren.”

Generations of seniors provide an invaluable resource to society and following generations. Their words and example can foster a rich awareness in children. That “history did not begin with them, that they are now part of an age-old pilgrimage and that they need to respect all that came before them” (AL, 192). Grandparents give a tie to the past, ensuring the most important values are transmitted.

I recall fondly my own grandmother and the encouragement in faith she provided.  It was the simple things that left such an impact which remain embedded in memories. Through summers spent attending daily morning Mass with her, always stopping after lunch to pray the Angelus, reading Bible stories on the couch, and hearing instruction on the lives of the saints, she helped shaped the Catholic woman I am today.

In addition to sharing their faith, grandparents are in a privileged place to be a powerful intercessor for the young people.  Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI called attention to the gift of prayers the elderly provide. Their prayers “can protect the world, helping it perhaps more effectively than the frenetic activity of many others” (Visit to the Group Home, “Viva gli Anziani”, 2 November 2012.).

On this World Day for Grandparents, let us join Pope Francis and the entire Church in celebrating all grandparents by a gift of presence, tenderness, and a renewed appreciation for them.  Now is the time to pick up the phone, go visit, bring them their favorite candy—something to show them you care.

The Vatican has granted a Plenary Indulgence to all elderly who participate in one of the Masses celebrated for this occasion. In addition, all the faithful who perform the Corporal Work of Mercy on of visiting an elderly person who is alone on July 25th will also obtain a Plenary Indulgence (the usual requirements for obtaining a plenary indulgence apply*).

During the coming months, this column will periodically feature the ongoing efforts in promotion of this Year of Amoris Laetitia Family, and related Diocesan efforts (conferences, workshops and access to resources resources), while also inviting participation as we journey together to rediscover the family as a gift – a gift from God.

Carrie Harkey is the Diocese of Venice Family Life Coordinator and can be reached at 941-484-9543 or

A Plenary Indulgences on World Day of Grandparents and the Elderly

On the occasion of the World Day of Grandparents and the Elderly, a Plenary Indulgence is granted to grandparents, the elderly and all the faithful who participate “motivated by a true spirit of penance and charity,” which is celebrated on July 25, 2021.

The Plenary Indulgence will be granted under the usual conditions: sacramental confession, Eucharistic communion and prayer, according to the intentions of the Pope Francis during the solemn celebration he will preside over in St. Peter’s Basilica or at the various functions that will be held throughout the world, including the Diocese of Venice.

The Apostolic Penitentiary explains that the indulgence is being offered “in order to increase the devotion of the faithful and for the salvation of souls.”

Prayer for Grandparents and Elderly

I thank You, Lord, for the comfort of Your presence: even in times of loneliness, You are my hope and my confidence, You have been my rock and my fortress since my youth!

I thank You for having given me a family and for having blessed me with a long life. I thank You for moments of joy and difficulty, for the dreams that have already come true in my life and for those that are still ahead of me.

I thank You for this time of renewed fruitfulness to which You call me. Increase, O Lord, my faith, make me a channel of your peace, teach me to embrace those who suffer more than me, to never stop dreaming and to tell of your wonders to new generations.

Protect and guide Pope Francis and the Church, that the light of the Gospel might reach the ends of the earth. Send Your Spirit, O Lord, to renew the world, that the storm of the pandemic might be calmed, the poor consoled and wars ended.

Sustain me in weakness and help me to live life to the full in each moment that You give me, in the certainty that you are with me every day, even until the end of the age.


Grandparents Impart Wisdom

Susan Laielli – Special to the Florida Catholic

Upon learning that the fourth Sunday in July was being reserved in honor of grandparents and the elderly around the world beginning July 25 this year, one can’t help but recall the love and patience imparted by this extraordinary group of people on to so many.

Some fifty years ago it was Mom-Mom Rose who was the strong Catholic influence in our family. Rose, who was raised in a Catholic orphanage in Philadelphia, Pa., was passionate about God and motivated in her faith. On Sunday we would pile in the Ford for a drive to Church rain or shine, sleet, or snow, to ensure her grandchildren attended weekly Sunday Mass. The lingering effects of her commitment in teaching us about God, the Holy Family and the Holy Spirit can be felt all these years later as I take my family, and now my own grandchildren to Mass.

The impact Vince and Annemarie Obsitnik, married 60 years, are having on their four sons and the 12 grandchildren (6 boys and 6 girls) is almost immeasurable.

“We try to teach them by our own example through going to Church each Sunday and praying,” said Vince Obsiknik, who admits it’s difficult to gauge the impact they are having on the children.

“We tell all of the kids it is important to be thankful for all they receive,” added Annemarie Obsiknik, who joined her husband during the interview.

The couple stressed that the real example for lessons in faith must come from the grandchildren’s parents, as they don’t want to over-step any boundaries, but admit to enhancing their parental support by showing examples of how God works in their lives.

“A grandparent’s example is as important as any other influence in showing our faith through how we live in our marriage, how we treat each other, and offering each child respect, and not focusing on any shortcomings we each might possess,” said the pair.

For grandmother and great-grandmother Carol Palmer, a longtime Epiphany Cathedral Parishioner, faith was ingrained from birth with three aunts who were nuns and an uncle who accepted the Lord’s call to become a priest. Msgr. Eugene Feldhaus, who subsequently died at 98-years old, taught the future Shepherd of the Diocese of Palm Beach, Bishop Gerald M. Barbarito, in grade school.

Palmer, along with her future husband Charles, attended 12 years of Catholic School in New York. The couple married and had five children, (two passed away) five grandchildren and one great-grandchild, with another on the way. All the children were Baptized by her uncle.

“I pray each morning for my children, grandchildren and great grandchildren, and offer Masses for them periodically. It’s understood when we get together that Mass is a part of our family time together,” said Palmer, who was widowed a decade ago.

With grandchildren in their 30’s Palmer says she understands faith and perspective can be challenging for them, but she remains hopeful that each will know that God is there for them in good times and in bad.

Remembering my grandmother Rose, who stood 4’8”, I can still see her kneeling next to me through the Consecration at Mass and feel blessed she taught me so much about God. It’s now time to get to work and keep our Catholic Faith alive through the next generation.