On St. Valentine’s Day, Feb. 14, 2026, Bishop Frank J. Dewane offered blessings to hundreds of couples who serve as witnesses to the definition and relevance of the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony in a modern world.
In celebration of that commitment, each year Bishop Frank J. Dewane invites couples married 25, 30, 35, 40, 45 and 50+ years to a Mass in their honor as witnesses to a beautiful vocation. The first of two such Masses to be held in 2026 was Feb. 14, at St. Leo the Great Parish in Bonita Springs. There were 340 couples present, representing a combined 17,340 years of marriage.
“What a beautiful sight I have before me,” Bishop Dewane said. “You live out the Sacrament of Marriage – day after day, sacrifice after sacrifice – in a time where the very definition is challenged and the relevance questioned. I congratulate each of you here, because of the example you give, in who you are, and the commitment you made by living out the Sacrament. The example is viewed by your children, your grandchildren, your neighbors, and society at large.”
Bishop Dewane explained how younger people often consider marriage as something that is illogical, but he added how love isn’t logical but is an example of the Lord working miracles.
“When you live out your faith – one for the other – it has nothing to do with logic. You live your life together by the graces the Lord gives,” Bishop Dewane said. “It takes effort on part of both in the marriage to make it work and oftentimes it is the instruments of the Lord working miracles here on earth. You, as a couple, are a witness of married life, to the Christian life you chose to live and freely entered.”
The Bishop said Pope Leo XIV described marriage not as an ideal, but that the measure of true love between a man and a woman is a love that is totally faithful and fruitful. That love enables the other to become more. Pope Francis also described married couples as icons, seeing the beauty in the pair that grows by the lives they live by knowing the Lord, and most importantly letting the Lord know them.
The 340 couples present represented 34 Parishes and included 47 couples that have been married 50 years. There were six couples present who were married 70 years or more. The longest marriage by couples present was 75 years, Bud and Janet Phillimore of St. Leo the Great Parish, who celebrate their anniversary on April 7. In addition, seven couples celebrated their anniversary on the day of the Mass.
Bud and Janet Phillimore met at a football game while Bud was attending Loris College in Dubuque, Iowa. Together they raised two children, a son and a daughter. They have four grandchildren and 12 great-grandchildren. The couple’s advice to young couples starting out is: “Even if you’ve had an argument, never go to sleep without professing your love for each other and your willingness to work the issue out.”
A couple married 53 years from St. Raphael Parish in Lehigh Acres who met while living in the same apartment building in Washington, D.C., said their formula for a successful marriage was compromise, commitment, communications, and compassion.
Steven & Violet Hvasta, of St. William Parish in Naples, who will celebrate 72 years of marriage on June 12, met in high school in New Jersey when he noticed her while practicing football as she was pushing a stroller nearby while babysitting. They have four daughters, 11 grandchildren and five great-grandchildren. Their key to a successful marriage was “developing the art of compromise.” In addition, Violet said, “God always comes first in our marriage. We pray together every day. We go to church together. It is about letting God be at the center of who we are. We tried to pass that along to our daughters and grandchildren.”
During the Diocesan Mass, the married couples renewed their wedding vows. In addition, each couple was presented a commemorative certificate, signed by the Bishop, for their enduring commitment to marriage.
Following the Mass, lunch was served in the Parish Center and there was the opportunity to have complimentary pictures taken with the Bishop. At the luncheon, many couples remarked about how wonderful it is to have their lasting marriage recognized.
Coordinated by the Diocesan Office of Marriage and Family Life, the Masses are celebrated each year in the northern and southern sections of the Diocese of Venice so as to accommodate the large numbers of couples wishing to attend. The second Mass is at 11 a.m., March 14, at St. Thomas More Parish, 2506 Gulf Gate Drive, Sarasota. A luncheon follows each Mass. If you would like to attend, registration is through the Parishes, but walk-ins are welcome.
Bishop Frank J. Dewane, who was the main celebrant for the Mass on Nov. 2, 2024, expressed his admiration for the Catholic Vietnamese community in Fort Myers, offering strong contributions to the faith-life of the Diocese.
Looking forward, the Bishop said he will continue to support the Vietnamese Catholic community as it grows. In addition to the Mass at St. John XXIII, Masses in Vietnamese are celebrated in Sarasota at St. Martha Parish and mostly recently periodically at San Pedro Parish in North Port. In addition, there are currently two men who are from Vietnam in formation as Diocesan seminarians.
Father Joseph Than Van Liem, CRM, the current Chaplain for the Vietnamese community at St. John XXIII, concelebrated the Mass, and thanked Bishop Dewane for his support of the community and presence for the 15th anniversary celebration.
Adam Nguyen, who has been a leader in the Fort Myers Vietnamese community since its inception, explained how Bishop Dewane understood the need for finding a permanent home in Lee County and how the staff and faithful at St. John XXIII were very welcoming.
Father Critch said the Parish has been blessed for its 50 years and for that he is grateful. “This is a celebration for all who have passed through these doors and have shared in our earthly pilgrimage, we are deeply grateful to you, Oh Lord. Loving Father, may we, as your people, remain faithful to you and your holy Catholic Church until the end of the days. “
This annual observance took on a special meaning this year with the recent completion of extensive repairs and remodeling of the church. This work included a new roof, replacing the flooring, pews, and creating additional space for a cry room and other upgraded touches. The welcoming worship space is befitting of this close-knit Hispanic Catholic community.
Father Oscar Mendoza, who is Administrator of the Mission and nearby St. Michael Parish in Wauchula, opened the Mass with a blessing of the new worship space.
Before the Mass, Deacon Ramiro Hernandez led the faithful in a procession with a statue of the Holy Child Jesus, which included the faithful singing praise to Jesus Christ.
“There is a strong personal connection for the faithful to this Mission,” the Deacon explained. “To have the work of the community come together, through donations and physical labor is particularly rewarding for everyone. It reminds everyone of the time when this was how churches were built and supported, by the community and for the community.”
Bishop Frank J. Dewane celebrated Mass on March 12, 2022, 15 years to the day the Bishop erected St. Agnes as a Parish, which had been a Mission of St. John the Evangelist Parish from 1999 to 2007.
Bishop Dewane spoke about how it is appropriate to celebrate milestones in the life of a Parish, pausing to look back at what has been accomplished and to look forward to where the Parish is going, particularly, one that continues to grow. The Bishop reflected how the Parish was able to overcome considerable debt in its early years thanks to the generosity of the faithful who had confidence in the vision of Father Kantor and his advisors.
To celebrate its years of service as the main Retreat Center for the Diocese of Venice, a “Butterfly Ball” was held Feb. 19, 2022, at the St. Thomas More Parish Chelsea Center in Sarasota. The elegant evening included a live and silent auction as well as a “Gift from the Heart” appeal.
The Bishop also thanked everyone present for their support of OLPH that evening and through the years. “Your assistance will allow OLPH to remain the sacred and spiritual haven that it is today and will continue to be for many years to come.”
With the exception of the founding Director, Father Mallen, all past and present Directors and Administrators were in attendance at the “Butterfly Ball.” The past Directors included Redemptorist Father Peter Sousa, Carmelite Father J.J. McCarthy, Oblates of the Virgin Mary Fathers Sean Morris and Shawn Monahan. Currently serving is Father Yavarone and assisting is Father Lino Estadilla, OVM. Sister Carmella was Administrator of OLPH for 18 years, and Denise Riley has held that position since 2013.
The combined years married for the couples present in Venice was well over 15,756, with 57 couples present celebrating their 50th anniversary this year, and five couples each celebrating 70 or more years.
The longest couple married present in Venice were Donald and Nonna Rassier of Epiphany Cathedral, who will be celebrating 74 years together on Oct. 2, 2022. Four additional couples, celebrating 70 or more years, were present for the Mass including: Carl and Natalie Pensak, Raymond and Gayle Bickowski, both 70 years; Thomas and Dolores Martorana, 71 years, and Leon and Ann Reser, 73 years.
